Neurodivergent (ND) couples, where one or both partners are autistic or have ADHD or another brain difference, often struggle in relationships because of mixed signals. He said one thing, she heard something else, and they both jumped to conclusions about what their partner really meant.

Nowhere is social communication more important than in a marriage or committed relationships. You may be in a ND relationship, wondering why it seems so hard to communicate with the one you love. Maybe you're not in a relationship yet, and you know you need some solid communication skills in place before you find the right one so you can make it work. This book is for you.

One thing ND couples have in common is a propensity to have mixed signals, yearning to communicate clearly and effectively, but finding that desire thwarted time and time again. How can ND couples turn mixed signals into fixed signals? You'll find answers in Relating while Autistic: Fixed Signals for Neurodivergent Couples.

This book offers practical tips, evidence-based strategies, and the keys couples need to unlock their best relationship. It's built on the science of human behavior, relationship research, and what Wendela Marsh has learned from her own twenty-seven years in love in a brilliant and enduring ND marriage.

One way relationship mixed signals are explored in this book is through "Red Light/Green Light Tips" that demonstrate what not to do or say, with more effective things to try instead. "What Shall We Talk About?" conversation starters for Family Meetings open the gates to discussions about what's important to the two of you. There will be "Date Night Themes" offering ideas for planned date nights, to avoid surprises.

Another way you'll learn to turn mixed signals into fixed signals is through the stories of four fictional couple. You will learn how they deal with miscommunication and misunderstandings. Each chapter also includes "They Say," stories shared by actual ND couples about what has worked in their relationships.

This much needed resource is a charming "how-to" relationship guide for autistic and other ND individuals.

Wendela Whitcomb Marsh has a heart for autists of all ages, and for the amazing parents and professionals who love them and work with them. Having been a teacher, counselor, psychologist, and Board Certified Behavior Analyst, as well as parent of and spouse to awesome autistic people, she brings a unique perspective to working with this population. She lives in Salem, Oregon.

Introduction: All Aboard!
Turn Mixed Signals into Fixed Signals
Part I: Stop! Mixed Signals
Sort it Out
Chapter 1: Verbal Mixed Signals/Fixed Signals
Chapter 2: Nonverbal Mixed Signals/Fixed Signals
Chapter 3: Social Mixed Signals/Fixed Signals
Part II: Look!
Four Unique Love Languages
Spot the Signals
Chapter 4: Loving Words
Chapter 5: Loving Touch
Chapter 6: Loving Gifts
Chapter 7: Loving Time
Chapter 8: Loving Works
Part III: Listen!
Heed the Bells and Whistles
Don't Get Derailed
Chapter 9: Three Big Hot Topics
Chapter 10: Four Big Warning Lights
Chapter 11: Holidays, From Hazard to Happy
Chapter 12: Family Meetings Done Right
Chapter 13: Date Night Dos and Don'ts
Part IV: All Clear!
Full Steam Ahead to Your Fabulous Future
Chapter 14: Staying on Track