> --HARVILLE HENDRIX, PH.D.
author, Getting the Love You Want and Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents

> --MICHAEL GURIAN
author, The Minds of Boys and The Wonder of Girls

> --SUSAN PAGE
author, Why Talking Is Not Enough and If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

> --WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.
author, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say and Why Men Are the Way They Are

> --ROSS D. PARKE, PH.D.
Distinguished Professor of Psychology, Emeritus, University of California, Riverside; and past president, Society for Research in Child Development

Acknowledgments vii

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 What Is a Family? 7

Chapter 2 What Is Happiness? 19

Secret 1 Happy Families . . . Stick Together 28

Secret 2 Happy Families . . . Commit and Communicate 57

Secret 3 Happy Families . . . Lean 80

Secret 4 Happy Families . . . Teach to and Learn from Children 100

Secret 5 Happy Families . . . Blend 131

Secret 6 Happy Families . . . Handle Conflict 155

Secret 7 Happy Families . . . Bounce 183

Secret 8 Happy Families . . . Breathe 206

Epilogue: Happy Families . . . Evolve 227

Appendix: Aggregate Results of the Happy Family Survey 231

Notes 243

About the Authors 251

Index 253

Dr. Scott Haltzman is clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Alpert Medical School of Brown University and editor of DrScott.com. He is the coauthor of the best-selling books The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women.

Theresa Foy DiGeronimo is the author of more than fifty books in the fields of medicine, education, and parenting.